(In this final installment on how to prepare your mind for life’s problem, I want to stress how important it is for all of you to do the morning prep work. It must be treated as a skill and be taken seriously. If you find yourself going through the motions with the self reflective questions, you will not benefit from this mental toughness program. It must become part of your daily morning routine. So get up, brush your teeth, take shower, make breakfast and get off your social media. Instead, prime your mind to face the landmines in your life that are waiting to blow up in your face. The more prepare you yourself to do battle with your new and old adversities, the better your chances of defeating them.)
By signing up for in this mental toughness program you have taking a defiant stand against those who want to have their way with you just for their amusement. Continue reading Mental Toughness Life Skill #1 – Prepare Yourself to be the Aggressor (Part 13)
(In part 11 on this series on how to get yourself ready for life’s problems, I talked about how sometimes we all lack motivation with our mental toughness training. When you catch yourself feeling laid-back instead of wanting to attack the WOD, you can use self-questions with negative outcomes to push you into action. Like having an ace up my sleeve, these types of question have always inspired my clients and myself with much needed fuel when one gets lazy. The problem with having early success with this mental toughness program is that it can lead to complacency. When that happens, you will be a risk at having a physical and mental regression if you get inconsistent with the training. To prevent this catastrophe from happening, you must always be on the lookout for a lethargic mind-set. When you are less than inspired, go ahead and implement these self-questions with negative results.
If they don’t jolt you into action, you have no business being in this mental toughness program. )
For me, I always have to remind myself that everything I’ve earn can also be lost. The major point is that we can never forget how bad things used to be. Continue reading Mental Toughness Life Skill #1 – Prepare Yourself to be the Aggressor (Part 12)
(In the last post, I talked about how we should spent some time comparing our life since taking up this training and how we were when we were weak. By comparing and contrasting your new you and your former past self, it will keep you hungry and sustain your drive. I used this technique whenever I am feeling complacent, lazy or even cocky. Going back to your weak roots is a reminder of how far you have come, but also a dangerous wake up call that you may return to. As long as I have being dedicating myself to mental toughness training, I’ve never feel secure or completely in a safe zone that I “made it.” In fact when I catch myself feeling comfortable with the training, I like to put some worry and urgency back into myself. Unfortunately, I have seen some negative outcomes from my former training partners and clients who couldn’t keep up with this training. As a result, they have returned back to their weak self and soft bodies. If this happened to them, it can also happen to me. The thought of this just makes me quiver with disgust.
I have no choice then, but to go out and train my ass off).
Currently, you are all very susceptible to returning back to having a overweight tummy and being the human doormat that you used to be. Very, very close. Continue reading Mental Toughness Life Skill #1 – Prepare Yourself to be the Aggressor (Part 11)
(In this continuing series on how to get you in the mind-set to aggressively dealing with life’s road bumps, I talked last time about how to avoid a mental regression. I see this all the time in my practice – a client works extremely hard in the first couple of months and makes noticeable gains with his body composition and self-confidence. He feels so good about himself that he foolish thinks the training is over as his motivation starts to wade. The client begins to get lackadaisical with his training and all his gains begin to skid backwards. To avoid any form of regression, you must be on the constantly lookout for any signs of lack of motivation. If you are not inspired to train, I’ll prove you some instant reality to get you to train hard. The hard truth is that as fast as it took for you to make all your gains, you can lose everything just as quickly. It only takes a handful of bad meals and missed workouts for your waistline to bulge and your mental strength to go down the drain.
One of the best ways to avoid physical and psychological regression is to confront yourself with self questions with negative connotations. These types of reflection questions will make you feel uncomfortable, but they may the best medicine you need when you are prematurely over celebrating your success or feeling like a being a couch potato.)
I don’t like to use fear arousal techniques to inspire myself as they can lead to negative self talk and criticism. But, when given the choice of having your mental strength continuing to grow or relapse to back to state of weakness, the choice becomes crystal clear. Continue reading Mental Toughness Life Skill #1 – Prepare Yourself to be the Aggressor (Part 10)
(For part 9 in this extensive topic on how to get you mentally aggressive while facing your life problems, I talked about how to use a negative stimulus to motivate yourself. Normally, I don’t like to use fear arousal to get my ass in gear, but at times, they can be quite effective especially when you need sometime extra to motivate me. These types of self-questions that provoke some fear in you are very confrontation. If they don’t get you ready to battle the daily hardships that you will face, I don’t know what will.)
At times, during my mental toughness journey when I felt lax during my training and needed an extra push, I sometimes I had to get more confrontational with myself with questions that provoked negative consequences. Some studies on human behavior have suggested we work harder to avoid a loss than to gain a win. An example could be how some people do more to avoid losing their life savings than to make more money. Same concept can be applied with your mental toughness training especially when you start making noticeable gains. Continue reading Mental Toughness Life Skill #1 – Prepare Yourself to be the Aggressor (Part 9)