(Welcome to the 9th installment on this in depth discussion on how we can strengthen our coping skills to suffering. Again, the overall response have been very positive so if what I’m writing is giving you ideas on how to go on when you don’t want to, I’ll continue my investigation.)
Tip #10 Think about how others will benefit from your toughness development. Being mentally weak affects your whole life. You can’t run from it or pretend that it doesn’t exist. You can try your best to suppress it, but soon or later, your true ways will be exposed. In fact, I hate to break the bad news to you, but those around you already know your true weak self. How? Because your weak ways affect all those around you.
If you are a mentally weak parent, unfortunately you’ll more than likely to raise pansies just like you. If this isn’t the number reason to toughen up, I don’t know what is. I don’t have kids, but the last thing I would want is for my children to live the same pathetic life that I did. Nothing would be worse than this.
When you are a work, your co-workers talk shit behind your back. They don’t trust you or want to rely on you for anything significant because they know you can’t handle the pressure or the extra stress. Having you as a teammate spells doom and they would rather depend on themselves than your sorry ass.
If you are in a relationship, your significant other probably loathes your weak persona. I would go so far and say he or she doesn’t have much respect for you especially when you act like pussy or whiner. When you remain a victim, you make your partner a victim too. Your cowardly ways only teaches your love ones to be cowards too.
No wonder your partner resents you.
In fact, if you are a bona fide weak ass, everybody dishes on you.
This are harsh words, but as you know I don’t’ hold anything back on this site. If I treat you with kid gloves, you’ll never change and will always be a pussy the rest of your life.
So you must change your old ways not only for you, but for your love ones and important people in your life.
I know when I’m having one of those weak days and I don’t feel like training, my pain tolerance drops dramatically. If this happens, and I do a formidable CrossFit WOD, I am sure to get my ass buried.
So sometimes during my pre-WOD reflection period, I shift my focus not on me but on my wife, family or co-workers. I think about both the positive benefits of me getting mentally stronger and the negative outcome if I continue living a life of being a fragile and soft.
You need to do the same if you want to elevate your pain tolerance. The more specific you are with the positive and negative benefits, the more it will charge you up. So take your time and really engage your visualization skills on both the positive and negative benefits of being mentally stronger for those important people in your life.
Not doubt, both scenarios will put an instant jolt in you. You will feel an immediate rush of urgency to the training as it now has a significant more meaningful aspect to it compared to just working out.
When I used this coping skill to fight off the upcoming suffering, it teaches me to train for those around me. I need to get stronger not only for myself, but to be a better husband and be a provider for me family. Having a weak mind will not only destroy my relationship with my wife, but make me a pathetic role model.
I couldn’t live with myself if I let my loved ones down.
So, reflecting on the need to be strong for my family will help raise my tolerance to the upcoming suffering to a much higher level than for my own selfish reasons.
When you are feeling low and abnormally mentally weak, leveraging the important people in your life can not only give you extra motivation to plow down a WOD, but give you the pain protection that you need.
If you can’t do it for yourself, learn to be tough for others. Why? Because they need you to step it up. Those around you need you to be courageous and take the leadership role.
If this statement doesn’t inspire you to change your weak ways, I don’t know what can.
Mental toughness is not about being self-absorbed and narcissistic. It is about being the complete opposite. It is devoting yourself to becoming as humanly mentally strong as possible so you can protect your loved ones from the cruelties of the world
If this last statement speaks to you, give it all you got in today’s WOD and say “Fuck you” to the upcoming suffering. A lot is riding on your training and you must learn to overcome pain
Not just for you, but for those who depend on you.
(To be continued)
Today’s Litvinov WOD –
Deadlifts – 5 reps
Push press – 5 reps
Spiderman sprints – 20 yards (approximately). Here a good demo of what a Spiderman crawl should look like – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HwWLTzooiNI
This is one of the toughest WOD that I have posted on this site. I did it again recently and I struggled big time with it. By the third set, my tongue was hanging out of my mouth and I was on my back seeing stars. As rough as this WOD was, I was able to bounce up from my rest period very quickly and headed back toward the barbell for the next round. No lie, but I would say my recovery time was less than one minute between every round. That’s very fast considering how exhausted I felt after each round.
There was a introduction CrossFit class right next to me while I doing this WOD. It was probably very perplexing to them as I laid there on the ground as if I was dead and then all of sudden, I was able to stand right back up with rush of energy as if I was as good as new.
No doubt, the reason for my fast recovery time was due to my preparational work. I knew going that if I wasn’t emotionally prepare to handle this killer, I would have be intimidated very early on and that would have made the whole training session worse than it what it was already was. In order to avoid being fearful of this WOD, I struck first. I made sure I went into this with a very strong “why”.
During my prep time, I got myself ready by delving into my needs to be mentally tough. I drilled myself over and over by asking myself this one question – “Why do I need to become mentally tough in my life?” With each time I asked myself this question, I came up with answers to help me understand why I must have toughness in my life. Although each response was very similar, I was able to find nuances and just subtle differences to strengthen my “why.” In fact, I came up with something that I haven’t thought in a while that really drove to the edge. It gave me a strong perspective and a better understanding at why I am fighting. Its not that we forget, but sometime we just need a reminder.
Th deeper in thought I was with my self-discovery and understanding my “why” for this training, the less concern I was with the intimidation factor of this WOD. In other words, I came out of preparation period, not giving a fuck who my opponent was. I knew who ever it was better watch out because I was ready to kick some serious ass.
My “why” was so strong that I was able to sustain the emotion and aggressiveness from it throughout the WOD. Even though I was breathing abnormally hard and near total muscle fatigue during the recovery period between rounds, all I had to do was to think of my “why” and I was ready to go to it again. In a very instant, my breathing calmed down and I was fully energized again. There was no stopping me with this WOD today.
I was in that CrossFit zone where I felt fucken invincible.
This is what having a strong and concrete “why” did for me and I know can do for you as well.
Come out fighting with this WOD and don’t stop until you are done. This is how you find the intimidator in yourself.
Scaled back version of this WOD –
1.Omit the Spiderman sprints.
2. Do only the deadlifts and Spiderman sprints.
3. Do only three sets total.
Acceptable alternatives –
1.You can do military presses instead of push presses. Also, you can use dumbbells or a barbell for the presses.
2. You can run in place or do jumping jacks for 30 seconds over the Spiderman crawls.
3. If you are limited by space, you can do 10 burpees or jump rope for a minute instead of the Spiderman sprints.