Mental Toughness Life Skill #1 – Prepare Yourself to be the Aggressor (Part 11)


(In the last post, I talked about how we should spent some time comparing our life since taking up this training and how we were when we were weak. By comparing and contrasting your new you and your former past self, it will keep you hungry and sustain your drive. I used this technique whenever I am feeling complacent, lazy or even cocky. Going back to your weak roots is a reminder of how far you have come, but also a dangerous wake up call that you may return to. As long as I have being dedicating myself to mental toughness training, I’ve never feel secure or completely in a safe zone that I “made it.” In fact when I catch myself feeling comfortable with the training, I like to put some worry and urgency back into myself. Unfortunately, I have seen some negative outcomes from my former training partners and clients who couldn’t keep up with this training.  As a result, they have returned back to their weak self and soft bodies. If this happened to them, it can also happen to me. The thought of this just makes me quiver with disgust.

I have no choice then, but to go out and train my ass off).

Currently, you are all very susceptible to returning back to having a overweight tummy and being the human doormat that you used to be. Very, very close. It only takes a couple of slip ups like a few missed up workouts and couple of bad meals with your lazy ass co-workers and you are back to where you were before you started this mental toughness program. Only this time, you will be returning to a even weaker state of mind. Deep down inside you will know that you’ve failed in this mental toughness protocol. Not getting through this program is a hard thing to live down. It will haunt you and remind you of your worst fears about yourself about being a life-long quitter. Nothing is more disheartening to me is the fact that this program can make someone feel worse about themselves. This a major flaw of this mental toughness program and I have yet to come up for a comfortable solution for those who drop out of it.

I don’t want to be so harsh, but this is the hard truth from my years of working with men and women with esteem issues.This mental toughness program will either improve your overall quality of life or make you feel way shittier about yourself. I have seen this happen and I hate the fact that I am in some way, I negatively contributed to one’s mental issues and massive weight gain. My failures with past clients and former training partners bothers me to no end. I know this one guy who quit training with me and gained about 20 pounds in a couple of months. Needless to say, he stopped working out as well. I pleaded with him to join a gym, even a commercial gym, but he lacked the motivation to do even that. With all my clients, especially the new ones, I am very confrontational. My message to them is that mental toughness training will revel if you are a fighter or a quitter. I am constantly screaming this mantra to them during my mental toughness bootcamps. Unfortunately, for some people, my words become too loud and clear. They quit training with me and have to face the reality of who they really are.

I take no joy in breaking people’s spirits and not having the opportunity to help mend them. This is a major downfall of what I do. Most of the time, I tell myself that they quit because they couldn’t stand the sound of my voice. This is what I hope and probably true, but I know my words of being a quitter will always be in the back of the minds of all those who I have failed with.

I sometimes stay up all night feeling guilty of all the clients, friends and training partners that I let down. Instead of helping them, I’ve hurt and scarred them. So my goal is to help you stick to the program so you don’t feel awful about yourself when you come to the realization that you are a habitual quitter. This is why my lawyers have me write a disclaimer in this program so nobody can sue me for their clinical problems and blame me for their troubles.

I know this all sounds negative, but I am still very positive that you can avoid any psychological and physical deterioration. To do this, your self-awareness must be extremely keen and you must have the attitude that there is ABSOLUTELY no turning back. You have no exit strategy. It will be a life long journey to improving your mental toughness. I’m not saying you have to listen to my words the rest of your life. If this program is not for you, that’s cool. Just find a system that works for you. Just understand that achieving mental toughness is a process that never ends.

Once you finished the first WOD in this program, you have essentially burn all your bridges of returning back to your old life of being a major namby-pamby. Unfortunately, you only have two choices after signing up for this mental toughness program – you can either gut out the hard work and become a relentless machine or slide back to a life of being a laughing stock among your peers.

Be a fighter or a quitter.

The choice is yours.

If your decision is to progressively strive for internal fortitude, you must always be on the lookout when you are overly complacent or lacking motivation. When you find yourself just going through the motions, you must know how to get yourself back on track. One of the best and easiest ways to fire up you determination is to revisit your past self before you invested yourself in this mental toughness program.

(To be continued)

Today’s Litvinov WOD –

6 sets

Heavy deadlifts – 5 reps

Barbell thrusters – 5 reps

400 meter run (approximately)

This Litvinov WOD is going to be a doozy. Out of all the WODs that I have posted on this site, this is by far the most challenging. I’ve done this deadlift/thrusters combo with the run and each time I do it, I always wonder very early in the WOD why in the hell am I putting myself through this misery. As awful as you will feel during the WOD, you will hundredfold better and more satisfying after it is over. So, this great sense of accomplishment does outweigh the extreme discomfort that is inevitable with this punishing Litvinov WOD. You just have to finish this Litvinov WOD to experience the rush of supremacy. However, before you get there, the whole experience is going to suck ass big time. My finally warning to you all.

So here is good time to practice being in the aggressive state of mind while being calm and control. During your preparation period, let your thoughts, emotions, memories stimulate you into almost being in a state of rage. If you get to the mindset that you just want to trounce  somebody in the gym that looks at your wrong, pull back your thoughts. In other words, if your thoughts are boiling with emotions, let them reach a high temperature and then calm yourself down. Go into the WOD with your thoughts simmering instead of fuming. However, know that when you have to, you can access your mind immediately to be inciting with the most aggressive and raging thoughts you slightly tapped into during your prep period.

This does not mean you are going to pace yourself either. I highly suggest you go all out and sprint during the last 50 or so yards of the 400 meter run. This will ensure you keep up the integrity of making the WOD as intense as possible. By this point or half way through the second set, you should really feel the staggering effects of the Litvinov. This is the time to retrieve your emotions, thoughts, positive self-talk to get you in the highest level of aggression needed to help you defeat the onslaught of negativity and the threat of quitting that is coming in a big hurry.

For me, when I tap into this ultra level of aggressiveness in me, my mind becomes angry and becomes to take on a life of its own. Instead of telling me what to do, my mind is screaming and shouting at me with to never give up like how I use to. What surfaces in me is years of frustration and flashback of weakness that is exploding in my mind, that I can’t make it stop. The bad memories begins to encompass all my thoughts and I fucken hate it. I just can’t help myself but get pissed off at myself for giving up when I was should have fought back. By channeling in on this bent up emotion and seeing the WOD as a metaphor for my weak past, I am furious at myself for my lack of action against personal adversities. Now I am roaring back and directing my high-power emotions to finishing the WOD, no matter how bad I’m hurting. Its the only way I can make the real pain of the years of mental suffering leave my soul.

During it all, I vow to myself to always and for the rest of my life to fight back.

When I could get you all to do the same, I will have done my job.

Today it begins.

Scaled down version of this Litvinov WOD –

1. Omit the thrusters or do strict military presses instead.

2. Run 200 meters

3. Walk the 400 meters.

4. Do only 4 sets.

Acceptable alternatives:

1. You can use a barbell or dumbbells for the thrusters

2. Run on a treadmill or jump rope for a minute over the 400m run.