My transformation story was published a couple of days ago in Mark’s Daily Apple.com, Here’s the link _,http://www.marksdailyapple.com/free-at-50/#comments
I’m a huge fan of Mark Sisson’s web site as it has loads of free information on a the Paleo eating plan, fitness and improving your overall well-being.If you are not familiar with this popular site, I highly recommend you check it out. It’s one my all-time favorite sites of all time as the WOD’s in Marks Daily Apple has had a huge development in my mental toughness journey. I rank the Primal WODs up there with CrossFit.
When I found out my story was picked as one the Friday’s transformation pieces, I was stoked. I wanted to share my health and fitness struggles and how I overcame these challenges. Since this site is dedicated to mental toughness, to many of us, there is no adversity greater than our daily struggles to food, diet and getting healthy. In the future I will post more articles about the Primal/Paleo lifestyle and what I eat. Again, you can check out my transformation story if you wish, but what I want to share with you all is a mental toughness lesson I got once the article was published.
Being in Mark’s daily apple was an honor. I was very proud of it and sent a massive email to all my friends, clients, potential business contacts and to those who I never meet, but admired in the fitness world. I was hoping that the article would start up a relationship with some of these people. When the article first came up, the responses in the comment section was very positive and uplifting. My goal was to motivate others while getting some great publicity about myself and my writing.
However, after the article was up for about an hour, it suddenly disappear. At first I thought it was a mistake, but like a manic I kept on searching for it for what seemed like every 30 seconds, but the results were always the same – “Article not available.” I sent a email to the support team, but I didn’t get a response back. As the minutes passed and still no sign of my article back up, I was feeling a wave of panic mixed with frustration. I had no idea why my article was pulled. Did it offend readers? Did I get some complains? I couldn’t fathom what I did. I was complete confused.
The emails from those I sent to read my article started to come in. They were asking me why the link wasn’t working or to send them the right one. My friends would understand the mistake, but I didn’t know how my future business contacts would think of it. I started to cringe at the thought that some might have thought I was lying about being in Mark’s Daily Apple or that it was just more bad spam. I wanted to yell at the top of my voice and then bury my humiliation in sand as the emails and text started to pile up asking me where my article was.
As the day went on, the ordeal got worse as the whole experience started to trigger in me other failures in my life. I got really down on myself as it seems that bad luck continues to haunt me whenever I was on the brink of success. Like some of my other projects when I got close to getting reward for it, suddenly, the deal fell through. I felt down and cheated once again. But, more so than ever, it seems to me that I was now part of that struggling group that nobody wants to be a member of. The group of people that almost became successful.
While driving home from this awful day, I had no desire to go train. I had every reasonable excuse not to workout. I was emotionally drained and my focus was way off to doing any Olympic lifting training. All I wanted to do was to go home and stare at my laptop until my article popped back on.
In my weak days, I would have done that too. However, when you are mentally tough, you recover quickly. As I saw approach the exit off the freeway for the gym, instead of driving past it, I all of sudden without any thinking about I turned off it. I was determined not to let this bad day effect my training, particularly my mental toughness growth. Skipping the WOD, would have been a huge step backwards towards my ability to fight adversity. It would have been an obvious sign that I was falling apart and still weak. Moreover, sitting home pouting and waiting for a phone call from technical support is not going to do me any good. I have no control over what they are doing or not doing with my article. That’s just being passive which is a huge no-no in the mental toughness world of always fighting back.
What I can control is how I will respond to this stressful day. I went into the WOD with the mantra of “It’s all about how strong I can recover.” I’m a huge proponents of creating mantras, especially for mental toughness work and will post more about them soon. But, for that day, this mantra of “It’s all about how strong I can recover,” really motivated me to work hard and be head strong regardless on the shitty day I was having. Before even doing my first set, I was livid at myself at how close I came to almost letting the situation overcome me.
That day my Olympic lifting day and my lifts were outstanding. I didn’t go for an PR’s, but my snatches which are always a big problem for me, all jelled during this workout. The accomplishment of the WOD and not letting outside factors interfere with my training was exhilaration. Being weak is like being an alcoholic. One slip up can send you back to the gutter so you can’t afford to make bad choices. In my mind, being weak will never leave my system for good. I could only prevent it by being strong when I want to be weak.
After the WOD, I felt good about myself, almost not giving a damn about the whole day. When I got home and checked my email and the support team from Mark’s Daily Apple told me that were some confusion on when to publish my article and that it would be up the following week.
The lesson of the day is that we are in control to how we react when we are down in the dumps. I could have drowned myself in self-pity, but I decided to put my foot down and take control of how I was going to feel. I had planned all week to do that snatch WOD and when the time came, there was no way in hell I was going to let any external event take me away from my training. In a couple of hours, I went from elation to frustration to back to feeling mentally strong again.
So the next time you are frustrated with a bad situation, understand that you have the ability to change how you feel. You can’t always control the damage that has happened, but you can always control how you respond back. Like my day, you can go from one extreme emotional to the other in just a matter of minutes. That’s how life work, especially in the business world or when you are pursing your lifelong dream. No matter how down you get, you must never just lie there and take it up the ass while you wish, pray, fantasize, daydream, or chant for things to get better. You must assert yourself and take some aggressive action. If not, you will forever be stuck in the category of people that almost became successful.
You either accept getting hit or you learn to hit harder.
The choice is yours.
Deadlifts – 5 reps (at about 80 percent at one rep max.)
Burpees – 15 reps